Parents never expect to go through a painful divorce and battle over custody one day. However, despite their best efforts, a lot of families find themselves going through this very experience.
Although it may not be easy to go through a divorce with kids, there are ways to do it correctly. Going about it the wrong way could damage the kids, and make things even more difficult. It’s in your best interest to try to do it as best as you can with the least amount of conflict. Make sure that you steer clear of these common mistakes that a lot of parents make while divorcing.
Moving Out Too Soon
Even though you may be feeling emotional and eager to move on, it’s essential to take things gradually. Until you have a custody agreement in place, you should stay where you are.
If you leave, it could put you in a bad position. You’re better off moving into an extra room or staying on the couch until you’ve settled who will take the kids in the courts.
Not Putting the Kids First
You may be angry with your ex and intent on making them suffer for their wrongdoings. However, making your decisions based on getting back at them rather than what’s best for the kids is a disaster waiting to happen.
Acting out of spite will only hurt your children in the end. Instead, every action should have your child’s well-being in mind. You should always think about the long term rather than short term.
“Buying” Your Kids
Unfortunately, a lot of parents going on spending sprees attempting to be liked by their children during a difficult time. They often leave the tough parenting to the other parent and spoil their kids with toys or trips to Disneyland.
The best thing you can do for your children is to be emotionally supportive. Your love will mean much more than any toy over time.
A lot of people think that social media is a safe place to be open with your feelings. However, the truth is that you never know who is actually watching.
You never know what your ex’s lawyer can use against you in court. You’re better off expressing the way you feel to a friend or family member away from the public eye. Even sending emails or text messages are a terrible idea. Don’t send anything that could be traced back to you in any way.
Dating Too Soon
You’re probably excited to give love a try again. However, you shouldn’t rush into anything. Your kids need time to process, and so do you.
Rushing into something too soon could hurt you, your new partner, and your kids. You’re best off taking plenty of time to ease into your new life as a single parent, focusing on your kids first.
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