Rebounding After a Relationship: How to Feel Sexy Again

Getting dumped can seriously hinder your self-confidence. Even if you’re the one doing the dumping, leaving a special relationship behind may leave you feeling empty or not yourself. That is why, after a relationship is over, you must rebuild, reinvigorate, and rebound (if you’re ready). Healing happens at a pace that is specific to each individual, but there are some things you can do that can speed up the process, or at least make it a bit more exciting. If you’re looking to feel sexy again after a relationship ends and breaks your heart, here are some surefire tips and techniques.

Avoid talking to your former partner

Seriously, don’t. It may be extremely appealing to grab your phone and text them about something — anything — just to feel like your relationship isn’t over. However, this will only prolong the hurt and make it even more difficult when you realize that things are truly over.

Let yourself mourn

It’s normal not to feel sexy and alive after you end a relationship, especially if it was a long and comfortable one. Let yourself sulk for a little while: listen to sad music, read about breakups online or in a book, and talk with trusted friends about your situation. Experience all your feelings: sad, angry, and numb. This is the only way you can truly get it all out before you begin your rebuilding and rebounding process.

Buy some sexy lingerie (for someone else and yourself)

Treat yourself some lingerie. Go for a sexy lingerie set in lace or velvet, not the comfy cotton panties you may have been wearing in the first days that followed your breakup. This can help you feel confident about your body again, and it will feel fantastic to see yourself wearing a sexy bra, knowing that you’re hot even without your previous partner. Lingerie can make you feel confident and ready to face the rest of your life, even if it’s hidden under normal dresses, tops, and pants. It’s like your secret super power.

Sign up on a hookup app and get back out there

When you’re ready, it’s time to rebound. Get out, meet new people, and remind yourself that your previous partner isn’t the end-all-be-all. There are a lot of people in the world who would love to meet you. You can even join a hookup site so you can meet singles in your area, regardless of your sexual orientation. All you have to do is install the app or make a profile on the website, add in some personal information, and start scrolling through profiles of real-life singles looking for a partner to spend the night with.

Eat, sleep, and exercise

The best way to prove to yourself that you’re over your ex is by adopting a healthy lifestyle (if you don’t already have one!). Make sure you’re taking care of yourself even while you’re out meeting new people and having fun. You still have to eat, sleep, and exercise as normal even if you’re trying to heal a broken heart. That means ditching the pint of chocolate marshmallow ice cream in favor of a fruit salad some nights and taking some brisk strolls to get your heart rate up and boost your metabolism.

Check in with yourself

Throughout your healing process, it is important to check in with yourself to see how you’re feeling. You want to make sure you’re not doing anything that will damage your heart even more. It’s okay to take a break sometimes and spend a night feeling your feelings again. Healing is not linear, but your heart will heal over time.