If your wife or girlfriend has been forced to go through breast reconstruction surgery then this will be a very difficult time for her and you both. There is no real rule of thumb that you should follow when going through an ordeal such as this, but together you will be able to get through it. In the weeks and months after an operation such as this there will be some very dark times which you will need to help her through, being supportive at all times. We spoke with the team at the LA breast reconstruction center, to find out what you need to try and do to help.
To a woman her breasts are a vital part of her body, they are used to feed their offspring and they are the essence of womanhood. Naturally then when the breasts have been reconstructed, your wife or girlfriend may need some time to adjust to the change. This means that you need to give her space and change some habits which you perhaps once had. Nudity between couples is of course completely acceptable but for a little while it is better that you don’t go in when she is bathing or that you give her time and space to get changed, until she feels confident enough for you to see her in the nude.
Giving space is also about you being patient and accepting her no matter what kind of mood she happens to be in. Any woman who has been through an operation such as this will of course be very emotional about it and this may mean mood swings. It is important that you try as best as you can to understand what she is going through and be patient with her as she comes to terms with what has happened to her body. Be patient with your partner and let them lead the way in terms of letting you know how they feel.
When it comes to intercourse this is all about her and you must wait until she is ready to make love again. This could take weeks or months and it is vital that you don’t put any kind of pressure on her whatsoever. To be naked with someone when love making requires you to feel vulnerable and confident that your partner will enjoy physical time with you without judgment, it may then take a while for your partner to truly feel comfortable with this. It is important that you do talk about this with her however, albeit not in a suggestive way. Failing to talk about it may make her feel as though you don’t want to, which is why you should keep it in the conversation, but do so without adding any pressure at all.
Simply be there for your partner and let them open up when they are good and ready, the best thing that you can do for her is to be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on.
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